To “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”: An #AutismPositivity2012 Flash Blog Event

A couple of weeks ago, someone somewhere googled “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”.  The phrase popped up in a blogging dashboard and struck the blogger as being particularly sad.  She wished she could have answered.

We don’t know who it was.  We don’t know where he/she lives.  We have no idea if he/she found what he/she was looking for in that search.

We do know that search directed that person to a blog.  We do know the searcher clicked on it in an attempt to find what they needed.  And we do know enough about the challenges of autism to know that person is likely not alone in that sentiment.

So, we got to thinking.  What would we say to that person?  What if it was a kid, desperately trying to make it through tough years of intolerance and ignorance?  What if it were a person who might never stumble across the amazing voices speaking for autism acceptance?  What if that person thought himself/herself all alone?  What would we say about the present?  What would we say about the future?  What would we say about happiness?  And hope?

Each of us in the autism community –- self-advocates, parent advocates, friends and family, teachers, health professionals—we would all have different messages for “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”.  But likely we would all try to send the message that there is a brighter future and that friendship and support are out there.

We are asking every blogger in the autism community to write a message of positivity to “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”.  So that next time that individual (or another) types that sad statement into Google, he or she will find what they need – support, wisdom, and messages of hope from those who understand.

And – for those of you who do not blog but wish to join in – please post your positivity message to

Please join with us on the last day of Autism Awareness/Acceptance Month – April 30th – in a flash blog of autism positivity.

To participate:

  1. Publish your post on April 30th in the following title format:  “[Your Blog] to ‘I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers: #AutismPositivity2012”.
  2. Share your post on Twitter and Facebook, using that hashtag.
  3. Add your link to the Autism Positivity website and grab the badge:
  4. Share/reblog this message to your blog, page, etc.

This Autism Positivity Flash Blog Event is the brainchild of Thinking About Perspectives, a group of bloggers committed to increasing autism awareness and acceptance via open and respectful dialogue.  We are:  30 Days of Autism, Outrunning the Storm, The Third Glance, Aspie Kid, Flappiness Is, Quirky and Laughing, Life on the Spectrum, Fairy Tale Forgotten, The Aspie Side of Life, and Inner Aspie.

16 thoughts on “To “I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers”: An #AutismPositivity2012 Flash Blog Event

  1. Karen Mangano Reynolds

    wonderful idea!!! my son has said this on more than one occasion. heart breaking.

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  3. Kate

    My PDD/nos son has articulated that he thinks life would be easier if he didn’t have PDD as well, that he could have more friends…

  4. Lizbeth

    This is such a good idea. My son’s not said it but I can tell at times he’s at a loss. And it’s heartbreaking. It would be nice to have a positive message out there he were ever to run a Google search.

  5. Mary

    I wish i would have had support and friends for the last 50+ years and accepted myself. I want to be like everyone else and i see expectations to perform. i am still wishing i could control my world, but why does mental isolation hurt so much?

    1. My Asperger's Teen

      Sorry! Hit enter too fast. I’m really excited about participating – my son has said the same thing MANY times over the years. Looking forward to the 30th – thanks for drawing my attention to this!

  6. jamesfrenkline

    Kids with Aeperger’s syndrome, having a routine think that they are safe–they understand what is happening now, what is expected of them and what is going to happen next. Trying to take them out of that routine could cause them to feel insecure and cause them to act improperly. To handle this type of situations, you have to do something like that they think changes or modifications are in favor of them and not sprung on them.

  7. Johsn Mclen

    Individuals who are in its effects don’t have the capability to make concentration on any conversations even a small voice can disturb them. It creates difficulty in understanding social cues and boundaries as well. This creates issues particularly when interacting with individuals who don’t know your kid well. Your kid, has issues with understanding body language and may very simply misinterpret others, signals or violate otherwise understood rules–such as inappropriately touching somebody or standing too close, it’s result of Aeperger’s. So try to make his nature and behavior friendly which helps him to understand benefits of social boundaries.

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  9. Genisa Neal

    It might have been me. Or it could have been anyone else with Aspergers and is at their wits end at not being understood. I did Google that exact phrase a couple weeks ago, and visited several sites and looked up many posts to get information to see what others like me are feeling. When I try to explain things or my feelings, I just confuse people. Lately, I have been trying my best to participate in volunteering, but have been “pushed out” because no one understands me or gets the way I do things. I have two sons, and have a husband, but I am alone in this world. I am not a leader, nor a follower. I walk alone. I try to find supports for adults with Aspergers only to find nothing, especially where I live. I tried to google that along with a few other phrases. I got so fed up I just typed in I wish I didn’t have Aspergers” to see who else felt the way I did. As I said, I’m sure others have done the same as there are many of us adults out there that are invisible and have been forgotten.

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